An interview with the authors of “What to Do about Mama?: A Guide to Caring for Aging Family Members”Posted: May 30, 2014
So, why did I write a book about caregiving?
First of all, I worked for the Area Agency on Aging for over four years; it was my job to visit seniors in their homes in order to administer comprehensive assessments to determine their needs and eligibility for services. I saw firsthand the challenges for seniors and their caregivers.
Secondly, I was a caregiver for seven years. During the time I worked at Aging, my mother-in-law moved from Florida to our city in Pennsylvania. She resided in a supportive independent-living retirement facility. After living there for two years, she began to have falls, which required a cycle of emergency room visits, hospitalizations, and extensive rehabilitation. The “solution” to the problem was for me to quit my job so that my mother-in-law could move into our home with me as her full-time caregiver.
- Thirdly, I became active in a caregiver’s support group run by a local hospice. One of the group leaders suggested to me that I keep a journal. I also had a lot of e-mailed letters that my husband and I wrote to his siblings when we were trying to deal with the escalating needs of our caregiving situation. In addition, I was interviewed for a magazine article about support groups. After that process I thought, “I have all this stuff; what can I do with it?” I spoke to the author of the article, who was involved in her own challenging caregiving situation, and asked if she would be interested in co-authoring a book.
- And mostly, I wanted to make a positive out of something that had turned negative.
How long did it take to write the book and get it published?
- 6 months gathering information from questionnaire
- 6 months writing
- Submission and waiting
- Accepted and waiting
- Editing and waiting
- Proofing and waiting
- Published November 25, 2013
- More waiting
- Setting up social media
- Writing on social media
- And waiting
- Book events
- And waiting
What am I waiting for?
- Communication in general
ISN’T THAT WHAT BOOKS AND BLOGS ARE ALL ABOUT?
My blogging formula:
- Visit other caregiving sites
- Make comments about blog contents
- Discuss the information on my site
- Cross reference excerpts from “What to Do about Mama?
Thank you to the 20 of you who are following my blog (as of today). Since “everyone is a potential caregiver” I hope the information is useful to you.
For those whose caregiving sites I follow: Aging Parents: Making the Transition from Child to Caretaker; An Only Child’s Journey into Parent Care; Help! Aging Parents; Cape Cod Caregiver; Dog Tales; Mom & Dad Care; The Selfish Caregiver; I hope that my comments and sharing bring more activity to your sites.
Maybe at some time you will be moved to comment on mine. I would enjoy and appreciate your perspectives and suggestions.
Since caregiving is such a universal concern, I wonder, “What is holding everyone back?”
- Maybe caregiving is a topic non-caregivers avoid thinking about because “they don’t need it yet.”
- Maybe current caregivers are just too busy.
- Maybe the topic of caregiving is too gut-wrenching for former caregivers.
So in the meantime I wait
- For comments
- For something to happen
- For the time I can move on in my life