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Celebrating during a COVID Christmas
Posted: December 27, 2020 Filed under: Topics of Current Interest | Tags: COVID Christmas, Family FaceTime, Gingerbread houses, Sally Forth Gingerbread House Comic Leave a commentGingerbread houses. . .this is what our kids planned to celebrate the Christmas holiday together. Christmas Eve, we along with our 3 children, their spouses, and our 9 grandchildren decorated gingerbread houses via FaceTime. Everyone had 30 minutes to decorate their pre-built houses and were limited to 5 decorating materials. The 15 “contestants” ranged from 7-73 years of age. When the houses were completed and photographed, my daughter sent the “entries” to Uncle Bob for judging.
On Christmas morning, Grandma and Grandpa facetimed each family individually and then watched in as each of those families opened their gifts from each other. It took four hours, but when all was said and done, the chaos turned to quiet and there was no mess to clean up at the GPs house. It was not better than having everyone here, but I’m just trying to look for the positives. Just saying!
Which houses do you think were the top 4 winners?
Assistive Technology Enhances Independent Living
Posted: November 27, 2020 Filed under: Topics of Current Interest | Tags: Advocate for Mom and Dad, Assistive devices, assistive technology, Debra Hallisey, Echo Dot Leave a commentIn my September 13th blog post, Robots: A Good Idea for Caregiving? I stated that I would use a robot as an assistive device just like a cane, walker, or Emergency Response System. To take that one step further, I would use any type of assistive technology that would enhance my ability to live in my home more independently.
In a November 17, 2020, Advocate for Mom and Dad post:
Surprise! Mom loves her Echo Dot and often tells me what Alexa said to her that day, Debra Hallisey talks about how Assistive technology can make a huge difference in the life of your elder.
It was just last year that Debra Hallisey was having trouble getting her mother to have an Echo Dot in her home. (I’m sure many seniors are technology resistant—I know I am!) But with multiple conversations over time—using what Debra describes as the “drip method”—(plus the opportunity to try the device out with a free trial offer), her Mom relented. Debra now reports that the Echo Dot made life so much easier for her mother that she now has three more of them in her home. It has given her a sense of independence that had slowly eroded over the years as her mobility and health declined.
Debra identifies the several features that her mother loves about the Echo Dot. It allows her to:
- turn lights on and off by voice command
- listen to music, the news, and books on tape on the nights she finds it difficult to sleep
- keep her shopping list
- serve as a timer
- remind her to take medications
“I never expected my mother to take to assistive technology like she has and to discover on her own uses that help her which I never envisioned.”
Assistive Technology Can Give Your Elder Independence and Help Social Isolation – Advocate for Mom & Dad (advocateformomanddad.com)
The lesson in this for me and I hope you, is that our elders can change and adapt to technology when they find a reason to use it and especially when it makes their life easier or helps to keep them engaged.
Debra Hallisey
You Can Now Work a Bit (and Still Enjoy Retirement) with These 4 Career Ideas
Posted: November 5, 2020 Filed under: Topics of Current Interest | Tags: Career ideas for retirement, job boards, national parks for senior employment, Seniorfriendly.info, Sharon Wagner, workamping, Working during retirement, working remotely 1 CommentA Guest Post by Sharon Wagner Seniorfriendly.info
Not every senior is ready to retire, and many more seniors need to continue working to earn an income. Fortunately, there’s no shortage of excellent second-career options for seniors who want or need a partial retirement. What to Do About Mama wants you and yours to thrive throughout all phases of life, so read on for more information.
Don’t Discount Remote Work (in a Range of Industries)
Virtual careers are more popular than ever, and the industry of digital work continues to expand with more than 7 million people working remotely — even before the pandemic. Whether you want to work remotely in sales, marketing, accounting, writing, or customer service, there’s an opportunity out there that’s the perfect fit for you.
To start seeking out freelance work, check out senior-friendly freelance job boards. Most job boards exist online and via apps for your smartphone, so you can start your job search from just about anywhere. Of course, you’ll need a comfortable workspace to do your job, and brushing up on work-from-home tools and platforms will also be a necessary part of beginning remote work.
This may sound daunting, but the learning curve isn’t so steep that it’s impossible to learn, and you may be surprised by how much more productive you can be when working from the comfort of your home.
Consider Travel-Based Opportunities Nationwide
Many retired folks aim to travel during their golden years. However, if the need — or desire — for part-time work has you feeling tied down, you have options.
One travel-based job opportunity can be found in campgrounds and RV parks across the United States. Many camping facilities offer free space rent and even compensation packages for campground hosts, also known as “workamping” jobs. You might combine workamping with another part-time opportunity to support your travel habits and semi-retirement.
Plus, national parks and other spots around the US offer part-time work for people of all ages. You can still travel the country while earning an income without heading to state parks. House sitting has also become a popular way to travel the world while making money.
Earn an Income Near Home (In Others’ Homes)
While traveling to work at National Parks and other spots throughout the country is ideal for many seniors, long-distance travel isn’t doable for others. However, if you are seeking flexible working opportunities near you, think about becoming a house or pet sitter.
Many professionals often travel, leaving their pets and homes unattended in the process. As an experienced professional with a career behind them, you can offer clients reliable services and affordable rates and still make an income.
Plus, serial house-sitting can eliminate the need for a mortgage or rental expenses, explains US News. What’s more, you can travel as near or far as you prefer. Many seniors opt to travel the globe during retirement, while others keep a home to return to as necessary.
Think About Your Passions and Start Selling
Some remote opportunities are technically freelance gigs, where you work for companies as an independent contractor. But you can also make your own work by starting a business and connecting with clients in dog walking, house cleaning, nannying, or a range of other positions.
Whatever passion, hobby, or talent you have, marketing yourself in that niche may prove more lucrative than working for someone else. In fact, as Inc. reports, the statistics show that a 60-year-old startup founder is three times as likely to be successful than someone half their age. Whether your goals are small- or large-scale, there’s an audience willing to pay for your expertise — supporting your retirement goals simultaneously.
Make a Point to Prepare
If it’s been a while since you applied or interviewed for a job, understand that the landscape changed significantly. Cover letter and resume styles have grown by leaps and bounds, so it’s crucial to have the right cover letter and resume for the job you’re seeking. When it comes to interviewing, you already know to dress appropriately and plan ahead for potential questions. However, keep in mind that for a remote position, most companies opt for virtual interviews. Ensure you’re set up with a webcam and a microphone.
Working beyond retirement age isn’t for everyone. However, for those older adults who are aiming to give their career a second life, there are endless opportunities available. While some require an adjustment — and a change of perspective — you only need the motivation to pursue your quasi-retirement dreams.
Look to What to Do About Mama for more information for seniors and their caregivers designed to help them thrive.
Sharon,
My husband and I have been struggling with the concept of his retiring for several years. He is 73-years-old, and I am tired of doing this retirement thing alone. Because of COVID-19, he is currently working remotely from home—a compromise situation that allows him to continue working with me being less unhappy about him doing so. The benefits are:
1. Continued income
2. Constructive use of his time, otherwise hampered by COVID restrictions
3. My having him at home so that I am less lonely
The essay I wrote, “Through the Eyes of a Grandmother”, for “After the Pandemic, Visions of Life Post COVID-19” includes a brief mention of working remotely from home.
Thanks for your guest post, which is of such current interest.
Barb Matthews (co-author of What to Do about Mama?)
What to Do about Mama? Review
Posted: October 22, 2020 Filed under: Topics of Current Interest | Tags: What to Do about Mama? Book Review Leave a commentDownsizing
Posted: October 3, 2020 Filed under: Topics of Current Interest | Tags: Advocate for Mom & Dad, CCRC, Continuing Care Retirement Communities, COVID 19, declutter, downsizing, National Association of Professional Organizers, National Association of Senior and Specialty Move Managers, organizing 2 CommentsThe Advocate for Mom & Dad September 29, 2020 article “Tips To Help Your Elder De-Clutter, Downsize and Move On” addresses the task of downsizing, and has a number of helpful suggestions to help seniors through the process.
See: https://advocateformomanddad.com/tips-on-downsizing-moving/
I must confess that I am a hopeless organizer. I guess the process gives me a sense of control, so I have been organizing for just about as long as I can remember. I even recall an incident in 1st grade when I was reprimanded for cleaning out my desk during a classroom lesson.
I have gone through the process of decluttering my home several times over the years: twice when moving, a third time when my caregiving years ended, and a fourth when we again sold a home, one that we built and loved, to move into a condo near my youngest daughter. That was three years ago. We don’t have enough room in our condo to collect any more “things” and I expect this to be the last time we will downsize.
So, during the summer of 2019, when my brother and sister-in-law (SIL) faced unexpected medical circumstances requiring a quick move to a CCRC (Continuing Care Retirement Community), I raised my hand and said, “I’m your gal. I may not be a ‘professional’ organizer, but I sure as heck could be!”
SIL was now faced with having to deal with a multitude of responsibilities, many of which my brother would have handled previously. Since I had so recently been through the process of downsizing, remodeling, and reorganizing a smaller home, I figured I could tap my skills and be a real asset to the program-at-hand. And as a matter of fact, I ran into the same challenges and adopted the same solutions as recommended in this article. BUT . . .
Did you ever notice that “How To Do _____ (fill in the chore) in _____ (fill in the number) steps makes it sound as if success is easy-peasy if you just follow the plan? NOT! I mean, sure—the tips are helpful—but in general, there are unavoidable undermining circumstances.
In my mind, I visualized the tasks at hand:
- Downsize belongings currently in a 3,000 square foot home to fit into a 900 square foot apartment (a 70% reduction).
- Help identify furnishings to keep and choose furnishings to purchase to make the new environs “cozy and comfortable” as well as functional.
I even “fantasized” sending the couple on getaway only to return to an HGTV-style reveal. I mean—I knew this was impossible, but it was fun to think about!
As recommended in the article, the first step is to begin whittling down by sorting and discarding. Cool! That was my first step, too. Professional organizers ask their clients to sort items into five piles: keep, sell, trash, donate, and unsure. Obviously, I couldn’t make these decisions independently; this is how the process played out:
- I tackled one area at a time
- I enlisted my brother’s help
- He insisted that all decisions be finalized by SIL
- I sorted items into three piles: keep, distribute (family, donations), trash
- When SIL came home from work she surveyed the piles returning 75% of the “distribute” pile to “keep”
- I reorganized everything neatly back into the cupboards and closets
- I returned home with the plan to come back in order to help them move into their new apartment in the CCRC
After six weeks, what had I accomplished? Belongings were downsized about 25% and I had made everything neater so that DOWNSIZING ROUND 2 would be easier for my niece to accomplish.
Clearly, I had underestimated how much emotional value SIL assigned to her belongings. Just about the only way she could part with an item was if she could pass the “heirloom” down to her children. But as noted in the article, seniors often find their children don’t want the stuff. Fortunately, my dear niece was exceptionally sensitive to her mother’s needs and managed to assimilate many “heirlooms” into her home, albeit much of it in storage.
I would like to get rid of most of my “stuff,” so my kids don’t need to deal with it, but that hasn’t happened, yet. I’m hoping to move to a smaller housing unit before that point so that I can make things easier for them. Although, I am relying on my children to do what is right. They already told us they are not putting up with any “stuff,” and will get us set up in a “home” situation where we will be safe.
What to Do about Mama? Patricia’s Update p. 295
I went home shortly before the Thanksgiving holiday with the intention of returning to help with the eventual move, which was not to occur until the CCRC had undergone remodeling. Can you guess what happened then? COVID-19 applied the brakes. Stay at home orders resulted in affording much more time for my brother and SIL to get the job done, and the move has now taken place. It certainly hasn’t been the best time to move into a CCRC, with all the lifestyles restrictions, but hey, you do what you’ve got to do.
My biggest regret is that I spent those six weeks on a mission to accomplish what could not be accomplished, once again squandering an opportunity to just relax and enjoy my brother’s company.
How to Get Help
- National Association of Professional Organizers
- National Association of Senior and Specialty Move Managers.
VOTE!
Posted: October 2, 2020 Filed under: Topics of Current Interest | Tags: 2020 election, early voting, mail-in ballots, vote Leave a commentDauphin County Pennsylvania
Important Dates:
October 19 last day to register to vote in PA
October 27 last day to request mail in ballot
November 3 – election day
Early Voting by mail ballot: www.votespa.com
Question: What if a person applies for a mail in ballot changes their mind and now wants to vote in person?
Answer: According to Jerry Feaser, director for voter registration for Dauphin County, once your mailed ballot is issued, it cannot be cancelled. After receiving balloting materials in the mail you may:
- Follow all instructions carefully to both vote and return the ballot to the Voter’s Registration Office.
- Go to the polls and be prepared to cast a provisional ballot; or
- Use the “Best and Cleanest” approach: Go to the polls. Take the unvoted ballot and return envelope (the one with the declaration printed on the back). Surrender both parts to the Judge of Election. Sign the “Elector’s Declaration to Surrender Their Mail Ballot” form. Complete a regular voting ballot. Place in scanner.
How can you help?
Volunteers are needed for City of Harrisburg Voter Registration event Saturday October 3rd, 10 AM to 2 PM.
Further questions and information and to volunteer:
Contact Voter’s Registration at 717-780-6360.
Relevant Websites:
- www.dauphindems.com
- https://www.facebook.com/dauphindems
- https://turnpablue.org/postcarding-program/
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Republicans…
- https://rvat.org/about-us/
- https://lincolnproject.us/
- https://www.nytimes.com/article/republicans-voting-for-biden-not-trump.html
- https://www.axios.com/republicans-not-voting-for-trump-in-2020-9e2f02fa-0f36-418d-bedd-ed53181dd99c.html
Robots: A Good Idea for Caregiving?
Posted: September 13, 2020 Filed under: Emotional and Physical Challenges, Miscellaneous, Topics of Current Interest | Tags: Robotic Carer, Robots, The Caregiver Space, The Guardian 1 CommentOn September 10, 2020 The Caregiver Space discussed an article that appeared in the Guardian. Would you want a robot to be your relative’s carer? The point of the article was that people need human relationships involving empathy and attachment and that robots do not satisfy that need in caregiving situations. Read more in the Guardian.
My reply? Well, of course not! But that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t use a robot as an assistive device—just like a cane, walker, or Emergency Response System.
What do you think?